When did you stop feeling alive?
Not in the dramatic, life-flashing-before-your-eyes kind of way, but in the slow, invisible way.
The kind where one day you wake up and realize you're doing all the right things…and yet, something inside you feels empty. Quiet. Numb.
It’s not depression. It’s not burnout. It’s not that you hate your life. It’s just this nagging feeling that you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way.
That your spark, the one you once had, has dimmed into a dull background noise.
You’re spirit’s asleep…and if you’re reading this…it might be begging to wake up.
You’re silently struggling
Maybe we’ve all felt broken at some time or another. And yet, we’re not truly broken, just disconnected from our true spirit.
By “spirit,” I don’t mean anything religious or mystical. I’m talking about that inner aliveness, your
drive
creativity
courage
The invisible fuel that once made you curious about the world. It used to nudge you toward writing, dancing, learning, creating, exploring. But over time…
You chose safe over soulful
You picked predictable over purposeful
You traded aliveness for approval
And that’s how it happens.
Not all at once, but gradually. Until one day you realize you’re sleepwalking through your own life.
A long sleep
Your spirit doesn’t vanish, doesn’t die, it just… dozes off. Like a campfire left unattended, smoldering, waiting for someone to come back and add kindling.
You don’t need a massive life reset to awaken it. Just a spark.
A few intentional choices
A new way of seeing yourself
A different permission
Permission to want more, to feel deeply, to start listening again.
“I’ll get myself back later”
We all tell ourselves this one.
“When things calm down, I’ll be myself again”
“I’ll start once I fix my schedule”
“My life’ll be better when I hit my next goal”
But here’s what you and I both know, “later” becomes never.
Your spirit doesn’t respond to perfect conditions, it responds to attention. And most of us aren’t paying attention to what really matters, because we’re too busy checking boxes on someone else’s list.
So ask yourself: what would happen if you stopped delaying your aliveness?
Wake up your spirit
This isn’t a 30-day overhaul, this is about remembering who you are, bit by bit. You don’t need a spiritual retreat or a sabbatical, you just need to show up with a little more courage than usual.
1️⃣ Ask the dangerous question
“What part of me have I abandoned?”
Sit with this one.
Journal it. Voice-note it. Walk and think about it. Don’t try to fix anything yet, just notice. You might realize you abandoned your creativity. Or your joy. Or your sense of wonder.
Awakening begins when you stop avoiding the truth.
2️⃣ Follow the fire
Make a list of things that once made you feel alive. Not things you were good at, or that were productive. But things that made you burn with excitement.
Choose one and do it again. Even just for 10 minutes this week.
Follow the fire. It always knows the way back to you.
3️⃣ Practice stillness
Your spirit doesn’t scream. It just whispers to you, what you need to hear deep in your heart. So if your life is full of noise, notifications, and endless to-do’s, you’ll never hear it.
Try
5 minutes of silence in the morning
A solo walk with no phone
Sitting with your coffee without scrolling
Stillness is the soil your spirit grows in.
4️⃣ Make micro-promises to yourself
Pick one small promise. Keep it for 3 days.
Examples:
“I’ll write one sentence in my journal each day.”
“I’ll walk for 10 minutes after lunch.”
“I’ll go to sleep 30 minutes earlier.”
Why?
Because when you keep promises to yourself, you rebuild trust with the part of you that’s been ignored. Every micro-win is a message to your spirit: “Hey—I’m listening now.”
5️⃣ Speak to yourself differently
When your spirit is asleep, shame keeps it that way.
“Why can’t I stay motivated?”
“What’s wrong with me?”
“I should be further ahead.”
None of that helps.
Try this instead:
“What’s something small I can enjoy today?”
“What would bring me peace right now?”
“What have I been missing… that I secretly miss?”
Shift the conversation. Your spirit listens to every word.
You’re not broken, just buried
Read that again.
You’re not broken. You’re not lazy. You’re not too late. You’ve just been asleep to the real you.
And if you feel that tiny flutter in your chest right now, that’s your spirit waking up. It’s been waiting. Patiently. Silently. Hopefully.
Waiting for you to come back home.
This Isn’t a one-time awakening
You’ll fall asleep again. We all do.
That’s life.
But now you know the path, now you know how to light the match, now you know what your fire feels like. You don’t need a full-blown life plan. You just need a spark.
Every day.
Your final nudge
How about picking one of the five ways above and do it today? Don’t wait for permission.
Because the more you delay your spirit…the further you drift from the person you’re meant to become.
And that person? Not perfect, but fully alive.
That’s what makes life worth living.
So… what’s your spark?
Go light it, let it burn, and welcome back.
Dare to fail so you can dare to win - Moon Arica
Expand your comfort zone here, tell me your thoughts:
Have you felt “asleep“ for a long time?
What does it take to awaken yourself?
Recently:
Thanks for reading.
Moon, I will take you on point 3.
When I was a coffee drinker, I would walk to Costa Coffee every morning before work, sit outside to prepare myself for the day. No phone, newspapers, nothing! That was my relaxation period, it was also my Monday-Friday ritual, and it was a ritual.